I spoke with my dad for the first time ever - found a half sister that I never knew I had and also know that there are two other half brothers.
It came 6 months too late. Grandma had met Allen and it would have been nice for her to know that we found him and his other kids.
Allen is living in New Brunswick in Eastern Canada. He moved around a lot and worked in different places. Donald, his half brother, has his address and phone number so they can talk to each other. They have a lot to talk about and catch up on - over 40 years of life to relive.
Talking with Wendy last night for about an hour was enlightening. She let me know what my dad was like. Speaking to Allen for 30 minutes we were able to catch up a bit but not about some real important stuff - like why he left my mom and me.
Life is complicated and Allen's life was full of sadness and pain I feel. When your mom does not want you and drops you off at a home that is big sign and could devastate most anyone. Does that give him the right to be how he was? Did he understand what he was doing? Did he have other things on his mind? Was he just young?
Not many answers yet but maybe one day - or not at all. It has been a long time and maybe he has forgotten or does not want to bring up the past.
You might gather there is information I am leaving out. Need to be vague for now but will elaborate when the time comes.
One thing is for sure - my dad is still around and I do have other family that I never knew I had. These are both good things and I look forward to speaking to them and learning about their lives and getting to know who they are.
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